Although the term "jealousy" is often associated with love, it may not truly encapsulate its essence. Many individuals link jealousy to love because it can evoke feelings of importance and value within a relationship. A small dose feels good, as it shows interest in the relationship; however, too much can lead to possession rather than love.
Individuals who feel compelled to control and monitor another person's every step often do so to mask their own insecurities, and in that rush of emotions unconsciously make the other person insecure. Creating a safety zone for themselves that this person belongs only to them and to nobody else.This behavior makes the other person feel restricted and causes them to question their every action. Often, they compete with the other person's qualities out of fear that the other's worth will surpass their own.
When we attempt to control the behavior of another person, it doesn't strengthen love but instead fosters insecurity, eventually causing a rift and leading to a desire for freedom in one or both individuals. By switching the power of energy from one field to another, the field of love in a relationship is weakened. The relationship turns into one of dependency and conditioning, often forming an unconscious dependency. People who become insecure frequently seek for confirmation of their worth from the other party, and if they don't get it, the body feels a crisis similar to the crisis of a drug addict who is looking for it dose. Such dynamics create a sense of entrapment, diminishing the value of freedom.
The act of love is not possessing a person, but allowing them the freedom to choose and enabling them to develop self-love.
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